“I love you no matter what.” “You’re driving me crazy.” “I want to spend forever with you.” “I can’t do this anymore.” “I want more time together.” “I need space.” How often have we said and heard these phrases? How often have we said and heard them within one relationship? “Relational Ambivalence” is the experience of contradictory thoughts and feelings—of love and hate, attraction and disgust, excitement and fear, contempt and envy—toward someone with whom we are in a relationship. So as we as

Some relationships have normal ups and downs, while others get caught in the drama of ambivalence. Your relationship is ‘fine’ or even ‘good’ and also ‘terrible’ at the same time. One minute you are watching a film together, the next you are mentally filing for divorce. One minute you are holding hands, the next you are screaming in rage. One minute you are playing with your child together, the next packing a bag to leave. Again. I am a couples therapist, and on my channel, I share gentle, prove