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Defensiveness is one of the Four Horsemen that can derail a relationship, shifting blame onto your partner and creating distance instead of connection. Watch as John and Julie share insights on fostering healthier dialogue by reframing your responses. By focusing on avoiding criticism and contempt, you can remain open and receptive. Pay attention to both your reactions and your partner's—this mindfulness can pave the way for deeper understanding and a more supportive relationship. (Original Vide

How to Combat the Dismissive Avoidant’s Defensiveness in Conflict When you’re in conflict with a Dismissive Avoidant (DA), remember: direct demands and ultimatums usually backfire. The DA nervous system is wired to perceive pressure as control, which triggers shutdown, defensiveness, or even stonewalling. Instead, try this: Lead with what feels good. Instead of saying “You never spend time with me”, reframe it into something affirming: ➡️ “I love it when we spend time together without our phones